Something so innocent and beautiful as this...
Could be turned by perverts to this...
I really do get angry by this.
I have been a girl once.
Now I'm a lady.
Just imagine your mother, sister, wife and/or daughter being assaulted. What would you feel? But most especially what would you do?
Okay. So in order to be reliable in this article, I really researched on pornography. :) Yes. I did.
I searched for sites, and yah, watch videos....
I somehow regret for washing/ watching away my innocence, only because I do want to be informed and aware of the nature of this.
After watching and researching, I grew tired.
At first, I was excited and nervous at the same time.
Then when I was watching, I could also feel myself being aroused somehow (but of course, I am not really into that. I do believe that guys really do have an innate wiring for visual sexuality and stuffs.)
But then, after a few pictures and videos, I began to DISGUST pornography. It is really NOT GOOD. Let me walk you through my realizations. 7 things. Easy to understand and remember:
1. Pornography steals your real concept of Sex.
When you see this picture, what do you feel? What do you see?
Do you see a couple "fucking" or "making LOVE"?
I totally disagree with the terms I heard. They have these lingo that DEGRADES the human body and even the beautiful act of union of a MARRIED couple.
They make things quick. They focus on the "fucking" - inserting the "dick" to the "pussy". After how many minutes or how many in and out motions, they're done. When the guy "cums", it's all over. They will NOT have anything to do with each other after that.
They even mentioned people who are just "fuck buddies". Wow! Great. So you just use people as a tool - an instrument for your pleasure? Isn't that what prostitutes are? Except that they are being paid. Unlike your "fuck buddies" who are just up to the "fuck".
At least I could give respect to some of the prostitutes who have a wholesome motive behind their job, like feeding their children or themselves. But "fuck buddies", wow! You are so cheap. Just up for a "fuck"? Why? No one else would dare "fuck" with you because of your values?
*I'm sorry to be rude. I'm writing in terms of the language they use (so they could most probably understand).
Relationships are meant to last, that is why they hurt when you end it with somebody. All the more will be your bond to a person whom you had sex with.
Sex is itself a bond. It's NOT just a physical bond, but a psychological, spiritual and emotional bond. That is why Sex is precious in God's eyes.
Before you defile yourself any further, answer these first.
a. Are you well acquainted of what Sex really is?
b. Do you know how to appreciate it REALLY?
Sex is just like an abstract painting. Not much appreciate it, except those who are blessed to have such an appreciation. Same thing with Sex.
Sex may be misunderstood and even misused by those who are NOT YET blessed with it. In the right time, God will give you those "eyes" to see the real, lasting, fulfilling and not heartbreaking beauty of Sex. GOD WILL GIVE IT TO YOU. God made it, and He is NOT in the business of just making us mouth water for something that we cannot have.
God designed it. He knows it best. He will GIVE it to you with the RIGHT PERSON - Sex in Marriage. And when you are already married, have sex all you want - all day, all night. Numb yourself all you want. ;) Nothing will be wrong. I swear. It's in the Bible :)
Do NOT lower yourself to be such an animal, only lead by its desires alone. YOU ARE HUMAN. Live up to your values. Love yourself. Love your future spouse. DO NOT DEFILE YOURSELF.
Pornography could be very addicting, especially if you have that desire that you suppress. So what should you do to that desire? Read on :)
2. Pornography robs you of the opportunity to make your own reality (WITH your FUTURE SPOUSE).
This picture is SO TRUE.
I have mentioned that Sex is a bond. You leave a part of yourself to the other person. You even expose your whole self to the other person. The other person sees what others cannot and will not through the fear of God.
Pornography steals your opportunity to let God make the scenes even in your marriage bed - your sex life. Oh.. How beautiful God makes, if you just let him.
I am not a married person yet, but I have seen married couples who stays married even in their death beds. They were true to their promise in the altar. They did not make their sex life CHEAP. They are aiming for the real thing - the one BLESSED by God Himself.
3. Pornography lures you that its ok to have an affair. Of course that is WRONG. Let me tell you why.
Pornography says that your leader, the one you should follow, is your DESIRE. THIS IS WRONG. You'll be just an animal if you did that. Okay. It's instinct. But we humans are more than that.
Animals cannot really love. They have to have that instinct. Even motherly love for them are just PURE INSTINCT. Copulation just happens when the female animal is in "heat". Animals cannot have sex with another animal if there are no biological attraction. But humans are not like that...
We can make LOVE to our spouse whenever we want. We do so, because we love them and want to be intimate with them. We want to share our being to our spouse. Even when you are just in the courting or engagement stage, you will already feel this kind of desire. You may even control yourself in NOT doing this act (Sex) just because your partner does NOT want to. You have your values. You have your respect. You have your love as a human person. God has gifted us with that. Do NOT lower yourself.
Pornography lures us to have pleasure and pleasure alone - that it's ok to have an affair if pleasure could be achieve through that. Totally WRONG. Disgusting.
I do NOT want to share my husband with another person. And what I mean by another person is either a man or a woman. Yes. That is so rampant nowadays, and so disgusting too.
Just imagine sharing your fluids and your body to someone (indirectly) you do not even know through an affair your spouse is making. Yuck! I would be really hurt and really disgusted if that happens. No way!
And BTW, an affair will always be an affair no matter what. A wrong start will not be blessed. I do NOT agree with DIVORCE, in case in the grounds of a good reason like being physically abused. I am on the side of monogamy, and that means 1 spouse for a lifetime too. Not that serial monogamy.
I am priceless. I am me. No one else could be me. And I would only give myself to the one whom God shows me. I am NOT cheap. I will NOT be "tasted" or "tried" by many men. I am a virgin. I am pure.
I have the right to walk down the church aisle on my wedding day wearing a WHITE gown, for I am a virgin. I am pure. And that is the meaning why brides wear a WHITE gown.
May everyone of us be pure in our wedding day. That is the reason why I made this article - that we may know what is the value of sexual purity. May you do so.
If you have given AWAY, yes, AWAY your virginity, because your were blinded by emotions or was lured, it's not yet the end. Change your values, your lifestyle, your life and be attuned with God. He will cleanse you. You can be pure again through HIM who gave it to you. Do NOT give it away. Get His (God's) permission first.
4. Set aside your lust and pleasure, then will you see that you are all (the persons whom you are watching and you who watches the videos) the victims.
See that you may get addicted.
Pornography are meant to get you hooked. They offer you something that you cannot publicly achieve. You are restrained by social values. You have the church that teaches you what is right and wrong. But you have this desire. You want to fulfill it right now, easily and without consequences. But you are WRONG.
Pornography's consequences affects you the most. You will be out of control. You will yearn for more. You will waste time on pornographic materials and achieve really nothing in life. You will just waste your life in looking at things that could never be yours, unless you have an affair. Worse will come to worst.
There are more things to do in life than to watch porn. You will have a spouse in the future anyway, so focus now in making a living and being of worth. Be worth knowing.
Please STOP now. Please see the consequences that Pornography is doing in your life. See how you see everything sexually. You cannot be pure because of those sexual thoughts. Free yourself.
How beautiful it is to be loved...
to be married...
to have sex all you want after marriage...
to be the only one in that person's life....
to be so comforted and confident by a person, your spouse....
to achieve that one thing you have kept dreaming of (which is Sex)...
to enjoy Sex for the FIRST TIME with the Love of your Life, your spouse...
You two, you and your spouse, will totally enjoy and will totally forget the waiting that you have gone through. Both of you will then pour out all your longing for sex and your partner as long as you want. Plunge yourself to marriage, nothing can be more beautiful.
Do NOT be so cheap. Ask God. He has prepared someone for you if it is meant to be.
I saw a video in which the girls that were featured were promised to never show the video in public, in the internet. But these girls were deceived. The videos could go viral. Their families and friends could recognize their faces, while those who did the video clouded the image of their faces. They let the unaware girls take shame, while the producers could remain anonymous.
Well in fact, the produces are the ones that should be shamed. They use people to make their business bloom. The "actors" they use, the ones having sex, do NOT know that their faces will be shown in sex scandals. The ones you see on screen sometimes actually victims. They might have needed cash. But the result would be the lose of their dignity.
You who are watching porn are also victims. You are exposed to these kind of "pleasure" that will NOT satisfy you. From now on, STOP. Preserve yourself. Be sane.
5. Pornography creates a stiff format of what Sex should be, when in fact, Pornography is NOT even in the tip of Sex. Sex much more beautiful and pleasurable.
After watching and observing pornographic videos, I grew tired of them. They do NOT sensationalize me anymore. They're just intimate act with REPEATED actions.
Without love, there just but repeated actions. There is no LOVE MAKING. No love is present. It's just full of pleasure seeking actions. They do NOT care if the other person gets hurt or gets pregnant. They just want the pleasure itself. They do NOT want the other person. How rude! How degrading!
If you have been exposed to these pornographic videos, they all start and end in the same way. No care. No soft actions. These are so rough.
6. Keep yourself from Pornography. It ruins you, your spouse and your family.
An affair is other's way to fulfill their sexual lust. But this is a STUPID ACT. This blinds of the other people around you. It makes you focus on a short-term relationship that may satisfy you.. only for A WHILE. This is NOT lasting. STOP now!
Your children will loose their respect for you. They will see you as a pleasure/ sex seeking freak!!! They do NOT want to be touched by you, because you may think of them sexually.
An affair ruins your relationship with the one you love. At first, you may want to say sorry. But then, you may get tired of the nagging and fights. Who are you to blame? No one but YOURSELF.
People have their limits too, you know. It's hard to forgive when you are also hurt. I hope that before you did that STUPID ACT, you have thought hard first. I hope that you did NOT become selfish, seeking your own pleasure only. You have your spouse. Stick with her/him alone. Would it be okay with you if she/he will have an affair just to be fair with you? That will surely hurt too. Do NOT do it.
Even if you are single now, having multiple partners is betraying your future spouse. When you finally find that perfect person for you, you may NOT be qualified anymore. It's your lose.
An affair ruins your friendships and your image. I would not risk that if I were you. Every time people see you, they will remember this grave thing that you did. It will be your identity and your tattoo.
7. Keep yourself PURE. You may want to leave a LEGACY for your child to FOLLOW.
How perfect it is to be born EXPECTED. Your parents are ready for you. They will certainly love you.
How perfect it is to have a wholesome, well-respected parents. Their names goes before their. Their names are like a perfume, every one will acknowledge me, their child, and connect me to their beautiful image.
I have good life. Thanks to my family. I have a rapport. Thanks to the life my parents have chosen, I now reap a good life.
>Your choices now define your future.
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Here is a video about the scientific explanation of lust. YOU CAN PUT A BRAKE ON IT they said.:) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKeRBLYWGOs
Can you add anymore to this article? Don't hesitate to comment. :)
Could be turned by perverts to this...
I really do get angry by this.
I have been a girl once.
Now I'm a lady.
Just imagine your mother, sister, wife and/or daughter being assaulted. What would you feel? But most especially what would you do?
I searched for sites, and yah, watch videos....
I somehow regret for washing/ watching away my innocence, only because I do want to be informed and aware of the nature of this.
After watching and researching, I grew tired.
At first, I was excited and nervous at the same time.
Then when I was watching, I could also feel myself being aroused somehow (but of course, I am not really into that. I do believe that guys really do have an innate wiring for visual sexuality and stuffs.)
But then, after a few pictures and videos, I began to DISGUST pornography. It is really NOT GOOD. Let me walk you through my realizations. 7 things. Easy to understand and remember:
1. Pornography steals your real concept of Sex.
When you see this picture, what do you feel? What do you see?
Do you see a couple "fucking" or "making LOVE"?
I totally disagree with the terms I heard. They have these lingo that DEGRADES the human body and even the beautiful act of union of a MARRIED couple.
They make things quick. They focus on the "fucking" - inserting the "dick" to the "pussy". After how many minutes or how many in and out motions, they're done. When the guy "cums", it's all over. They will NOT have anything to do with each other after that.
They even mentioned people who are just "fuck buddies". Wow! Great. So you just use people as a tool - an instrument for your pleasure? Isn't that what prostitutes are? Except that they are being paid. Unlike your "fuck buddies" who are just up to the "fuck".
At least I could give respect to some of the prostitutes who have a wholesome motive behind their job, like feeding their children or themselves. But "fuck buddies", wow! You are so cheap. Just up for a "fuck"? Why? No one else would dare "fuck" with you because of your values?
*I'm sorry to be rude. I'm writing in terms of the language they use (so they could most probably understand).
Relationships are meant to last, that is why they hurt when you end it with somebody. All the more will be your bond to a person whom you had sex with.
Sex is itself a bond. It's NOT just a physical bond, but a psychological, spiritual and emotional bond. That is why Sex is precious in God's eyes.
a. Are you well acquainted of what Sex really is?
b. Do you know how to appreciate it REALLY?
Sex is just like an abstract painting. Not much appreciate it, except those who are blessed to have such an appreciation. Same thing with Sex.
Sex may be misunderstood and even misused by those who are NOT YET blessed with it. In the right time, God will give you those "eyes" to see the real, lasting, fulfilling and not heartbreaking beauty of Sex. GOD WILL GIVE IT TO YOU. God made it, and He is NOT in the business of just making us mouth water for something that we cannot have.
God designed it. He knows it best. He will GIVE it to you with the RIGHT PERSON - Sex in Marriage. And when you are already married, have sex all you want - all day, all night. Numb yourself all you want. ;) Nothing will be wrong. I swear. It's in the Bible :)
Do NOT lower yourself to be such an animal, only lead by its desires alone. YOU ARE HUMAN. Live up to your values. Love yourself. Love your future spouse. DO NOT DEFILE YOURSELF.
Pornography could be very addicting, especially if you have that desire that you suppress. So what should you do to that desire? Read on :)
2. Pornography robs you of the opportunity to make your own reality (WITH your FUTURE SPOUSE).
I have mentioned that Sex is a bond. You leave a part of yourself to the other person. You even expose your whole self to the other person. The other person sees what others cannot and will not through the fear of God.
I am not a married person yet, but I have seen married couples who stays married even in their death beds. They were true to their promise in the altar. They did not make their sex life CHEAP. They are aiming for the real thing - the one BLESSED by God Himself.
3. Pornography lures you that its ok to have an affair. Of course that is WRONG. Let me tell you why.
Pornography says that your leader, the one you should follow, is your DESIRE. THIS IS WRONG. You'll be just an animal if you did that. Okay. It's instinct. But we humans are more than that.
Animals cannot really love. They have to have that instinct. Even motherly love for them are just PURE INSTINCT. Copulation just happens when the female animal is in "heat". Animals cannot have sex with another animal if there are no biological attraction. But humans are not like that...
We can make LOVE to our spouse whenever we want. We do so, because we love them and want to be intimate with them. We want to share our being to our spouse. Even when you are just in the courting or engagement stage, you will already feel this kind of desire. You may even control yourself in NOT doing this act (Sex) just because your partner does NOT want to. You have your values. You have your respect. You have your love as a human person. God has gifted us with that. Do NOT lower yourself.
Pornography lures us to have pleasure and pleasure alone - that it's ok to have an affair if pleasure could be achieve through that. Totally WRONG. Disgusting.
I do NOT want to share my husband with another person. And what I mean by another person is either a man or a woman. Yes. That is so rampant nowadays, and so disgusting too.
Just imagine sharing your fluids and your body to someone (indirectly) you do not even know through an affair your spouse is making. Yuck! I would be really hurt and really disgusted if that happens. No way!
And BTW, an affair will always be an affair no matter what. A wrong start will not be blessed. I do NOT agree with DIVORCE, in case in the grounds of a good reason like being physically abused. I am on the side of monogamy, and that means 1 spouse for a lifetime too. Not that serial monogamy.
I am priceless. I am me. No one else could be me. And I would only give myself to the one whom God shows me. I am NOT cheap. I will NOT be "tasted" or "tried" by many men. I am a virgin. I am pure.
May everyone of us be pure in our wedding day. That is the reason why I made this article - that we may know what is the value of sexual purity. May you do so.
If you have given AWAY, yes, AWAY your virginity, because your were blinded by emotions or was lured, it's not yet the end. Change your values, your lifestyle, your life and be attuned with God. He will cleanse you. You can be pure again through HIM who gave it to you. Do NOT give it away. Get His (God's) permission first.
4. Set aside your lust and pleasure, then will you see that you are all (the persons whom you are watching and you who watches the videos) the victims.
See that you may get addicted.
Pornography are meant to get you hooked. They offer you something that you cannot publicly achieve. You are restrained by social values. You have the church that teaches you what is right and wrong. But you have this desire. You want to fulfill it right now, easily and without consequences. But you are WRONG.
Pornography's consequences affects you the most. You will be out of control. You will yearn for more. You will waste time on pornographic materials and achieve really nothing in life. You will just waste your life in looking at things that could never be yours, unless you have an affair. Worse will come to worst.
There are more things to do in life than to watch porn. You will have a spouse in the future anyway, so focus now in making a living and being of worth. Be worth knowing.
Please STOP now. Please see the consequences that Pornography is doing in your life. See how you see everything sexually. You cannot be pure because of those sexual thoughts. Free yourself.
to be married...
to have sex all you want after marriage...
to be the only one in that person's life....
to be so comforted and confident by a person, your spouse....
to achieve that one thing you have kept dreaming of (which is Sex)...
to enjoy Sex for the FIRST TIME with the Love of your Life, your spouse...
You two, you and your spouse, will totally enjoy and will totally forget the waiting that you have gone through. Both of you will then pour out all your longing for sex and your partner as long as you want. Plunge yourself to marriage, nothing can be more beautiful.
I saw a video in which the girls that were featured were promised to never show the video in public, in the internet. But these girls were deceived. The videos could go viral. Their families and friends could recognize their faces, while those who did the video clouded the image of their faces. They let the unaware girls take shame, while the producers could remain anonymous.
Well in fact, the produces are the ones that should be shamed. They use people to make their business bloom. The "actors" they use, the ones having sex, do NOT know that their faces will be shown in sex scandals. The ones you see on screen sometimes actually victims. They might have needed cash. But the result would be the lose of their dignity.
5. Pornography creates a stiff format of what Sex should be, when in fact, Pornography is NOT even in the tip of Sex. Sex much more beautiful and pleasurable.
After watching and observing pornographic videos, I grew tired of them. They do NOT sensationalize me anymore. They're just intimate act with REPEATED actions.
Without love, there just but repeated actions. There is no LOVE MAKING. No love is present. It's just full of pleasure seeking actions. They do NOT care if the other person gets hurt or gets pregnant. They just want the pleasure itself. They do NOT want the other person. How rude! How degrading!
If you have been exposed to these pornographic videos, they all start and end in the same way. No care. No soft actions. These are so rough.
6. Keep yourself from Pornography. It ruins you, your spouse and your family.
An affair is other's way to fulfill their sexual lust. But this is a STUPID ACT. This blinds of the other people around you. It makes you focus on a short-term relationship that may satisfy you.. only for A WHILE. This is NOT lasting. STOP now!
Your children will loose their respect for you. They will see you as a pleasure/ sex seeking freak!!! They do NOT want to be touched by you, because you may think of them sexually.
An affair ruins your relationship with the one you love. At first, you may want to say sorry. But then, you may get tired of the nagging and fights. Who are you to blame? No one but YOURSELF.
Even if you are single now, having multiple partners is betraying your future spouse. When you finally find that perfect person for you, you may NOT be qualified anymore. It's your lose.
An affair ruins your friendships and your image. I would not risk that if I were you. Every time people see you, they will remember this grave thing that you did. It will be your identity and your tattoo.
7. Keep yourself PURE. You may want to leave a LEGACY for your child to FOLLOW.
How perfect it is to have a wholesome, well-respected parents. Their names goes before their. Their names are like a perfume, every one will acknowledge me, their child, and connect me to their beautiful image.
>Your choices now define your future.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Here is a video about the scientific explanation of lust. YOU CAN PUT A BRAKE ON IT they said.:) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKeRBLYWGOs
Can you add anymore to this article? Don't hesitate to comment. :)
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